How To Be Mindful At Work

By David Gelles @dgell

Our jobs pay the bills, occupy many of our waking hours and can even give our lives meaning. They can also be a source of significant stress: tight deadlines, long days and difficult conversations. No matter what your job, work can be anxiety-provoking. Mindfulness can help. In recent years, many companies — from Google to General Mills — have started teaching mindfulness in the office. Whether or not your company does, there are simple ways to reduce the impact workplace stress can have on your mind and body. Here’s a guide to get you started.

What Is Mindfulness?

The Present Moment

Mindfulness — paying attention to the present moment in an accepting, nonjudgmental way — is a simple practice available to all. Research has shown it is also a reliable method for reducing stress, including at work.

Put most simply, meditation is a way to train the mind. Most of the time, our minds are wandering — we’re thinking about the future, dwelling on the past, worrying, fantasizing, fretting or daydreaming. Meditation brings us back to the present moment, and gives us the tools we need to be less stressed, calmer and kinder to ourselves and others.

“I think of mindfulness as the ability not to be yanked around by your own emotions,” says Dan Harris, the author of “10 Percent Happier.” “That can have a big impact on how you are in the workplace.”

There are many ways to cultivate mindfulness at work, from walking during the day to taking purposeful pauses when eating. One of the most reliable ways is simple meditation.

Basic Mindfulness Meditation

Learn how to pay close attention to the present moment with this meditation exercise.

Work is Stressful, Find Focus

It can be especially helpful to bring a mindful disposition to your job, which can be the source of significant stress. And workplace stress is becoming only more consuming,  with email, intra-office chat tools and social media constantly competing for our attention, and often bleeding into the hours that historically gave you a break.

“We are encouraged in the workplace to be attached to an array of technology wizardry 24-7,” says Janice Marturano, founder of the Institute for Mindful Leadership. “The information we’re being bombarded with can be anxiety producing and it can create a sense of disconnection that can overwhelm us in our personal and professional lives.”

One way mindfulness can help is simply by allowing us to improve our focus. When we constantly flit from one task to another, the quality of our work can suffer. By practicing mindfulness — simply coming back to the present moment over and over again — we can train ourselves to become more focused.

“This is attention training,” says Mr. Harris. “And the neuroscience shows that this daily exercise can boost the areas of the brain that have to do with attention regulation. Multitasking is a pernicious myth that is preventing us from getting our work done.”

When the Mind Wanders

An exercise to help you stay in the present moment while you meditate.


The goal of mindfulness isn’t to stop thinking, or to empty the mind. Rather, the point is to pay close attention to your physical sensations, thoughts and emotions in order to see them more clearly, without making so many assumptions, or making up stories.

Though mindfulness meditation was inspired by Buddhist practices, today it is available as a wholly secular practice that emphasizes stress reduction, the cultivation of focus and the development of tranquility. And today, there’s a large and growing body of research identifying the measurable effects of mindfulness on the body and brain.

Mindfulness meditation isn’t the only way to meditate. Transcendental Meditation, which aims to promote a state of relaxed awareness through the recitation of a mantra, is also popular these days. But mindfulness is taking hold in the business world, from Wall Street to Silicon Valley.

Built for Distraction

Just because they call them “workplaces” doesn’t mean they’re the best place to do your work. By learning how to focus more effectively, communicate more compassionately and manage our frustrations, we can avoid many of the common pitfalls that lead to dissatisfaction on the job.

“The modern office is built for distraction,” says Joe Burton, founder of Whil, a meditation app. “Not just the open-office floor plan, but Slack channels and email. They constantly take you off of task. You’re constantly having to go back and remember where you left off.”

Conscious Choices

Even without a formal meditation practice, there are simple steps you can take to give yourself a better chance of staying present:

  • Turn off pop-up notifications and push notifications.
  • Answer email during dedicated periods of time, rather than constantly throughout the day as soon as it pops into your inbox.
  • Finish one task before you begin the next.

“We can make conscious choices about how distracted we will allow ourselves to be all day long,” says Ms. Marturano. “This can help you be more productive and focused.”

Try It

When you are experiencing a particularly stressful moment, a popular mindfulness exercise known as S.T.O.P. can be helpful.

  • Stop. Just take a momentary pause, no matter what you’re doing.
  • Take a breath. Feel the sensation of your own breathing, which brings you back to the present moment.
  • Observe. Acknowledge what is happening, for good or bad, inside you or out. Just note it.
  • Proceed. Having briefly checked in with the present moment, continue with whatever it was you were doing.

Big Results

At Aetna, a large health insurance company, more than 10,000 employees have participated in a mindfulness or yoga class that the company offers, resulting in a healthier and more effective workforce. In a study conducted with Duke University, Aetna found that among those who took part, there was a 28 percent reduction in their self-reported stress levels, a 20 percent improvement in their sleep quality and a 19 percent reduction in pain recorded in surveys of the participants. They also became more effective, gaining an average of 62 minutes per week of added productivity.

Mindful Meetings

It can also be useful to set some simple guidelines aimed at cultivating a more mindful environment at the office, especially during meetings. “Meetings can be an incredible waste of time when people aren’t really listening,” says Ms. Marturano. “If one eye is on your phone while you’re in a meeting, you’re not really there.” To stay present, Ms. Marturano suggests some simple rules:

  • No phones or computers allowed at meetings, whenever possible.
  • If you need a note taker, have one person act as secretary and circulate the notes afterwords.
  • Give everyone present the opportunity to speak, uninterrupted.


Even for those who make mindfulness a habit, frustrations are bound to arise at work. Colleagues may let us down, promotions may evade our grasp and deadlines may pile up. When this happens, rather than try to fight the situation, see if it’s possible to approach the situation with some measure of equanimity.

“These are opportunities for reflection,” says Ms. Marturano. “Can you formulate a question around it? How does it feel in your body? Be open and curious. Where else do you feel that. Can you pause before you react?”

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Viktor Frankl

During difficult conversations, see if it’s possible to listen to what the other person is saying, rather than just stewing in frustration. “Rather than approaching that conversation as an opportunity to change someone’s mind, see if you can create the habit of trying to understand,” says Mr. Harris. “You’ll feel better, and the encounter will go better.”

Always Working

These days, it can seem like we’re always working, even when we’re not at the office. Here are tips to help you stay in the present moment even when you’re in the elevator or at lunch.


Perhaps the simplest thing to do is simply find moments to come back to the present moment throughout the day. Mindfulness isn’t just cultivated by long stretches spent sitting on a meditation cushion. Short moments, many times throughout the day, can have a profound effect on our disposition.

“Just feeling my feet as I walk begins to break through this feeling that I’m on autopilot throughout the day,” says Mr. Harris. “If I can be present, rather than amping up my anxiety, that makes a difference in the quality of my day.”

Try It

When you have to wait for a few moments — at the elevator, as your computer turns on or as something prints, rather than take out your phone and check your email, try a Purposeful Pause:

  1. Take a moment to check in with your body. What does it feel like to take one breath? How does it feel to stand, or sit, with the weight of your body balancing there?
  2. If your mind wanders, come back to the sensations in your body.
  3. And when you’re ready, proceed with your day.

“It’s about creating these little opportunities to have a little dose of mindfulness,” says Mr. Harris. “Rather than pulling out your phone and walking into a wall, just see what it’s like to feel your legs moving.”

Leaving Work at Work

Another good habit to get into is being more judicious with technology when we’re not at the office. Try not to check your email incessantly when you’re at home. Do your best to leave work at your workplace. This will help you be more present with friends and family, and also more refreshed when you arrive at the office.

“You don’t have to be perennially woke,” says Mr. Harris. “But it’s about shaving down the amount of time your mind is aimlessly wandering. Maybe taste your first bite of food at lunch.”

A simple exercise, known as R.A.I.N., can help us stay in the present moment and not get caught up clinging to the experiences of others, or our own emotions.

  • R: Recognize. Acknowledge what is happening, just noting it in a calm and accepting manner.
  • A: Accept. Allow life to be just as it is, without trying to change it right away, and without wishing it were different somehow.
  • I: Investigate. See how it feels, whether it is making you upset or happy, giving you pleasure or pain, just note it.
  • N: Non-Identification. Realize that the sensations you are feeling make for a fleeting experience, one that will soon pass. It isn’t who you are.

Mindful Leadership

Inspiring Confidence

For executives who manage teams or organizations, mindfulness can be particularly impactful, helping leaders stay honest, make tough choices empathically and inspire confidence. But these days, anyone can be a leader, too.

“Mindful leadership is about embodying focus, creativity, clarity and compassion in the service of others,” says Ms. Marturano. “It’s not just about the C-suites. It’s about an individual’s ability to more often influence for better, and less often influence for worse.”

Have a Beginner’s Mind

Marc Benioff, the chief executive of Salesforce, has been practicing meditation for years and says mindfulness has changed the way he leads.

“Having a beginner’s mind informs my management style. I’m trying to listen deeply, and the beginner’s mind is informing me to step back, so that I can create what wants to be, not what was. I know that the future does not equal the past. I know that I have to be here in the moment.” — Marc Benioff

But this isn’t just for C.E.O.s. These days, anyone can cultivate these qualities using mindfulness and meditation. “Employers used to hire for IQ,” says Mr. Burton. “But what employers need most in the face of ongoing change is leaders who can be curious, empathetic and compassionate, and there’s a real shortage of these kinds of skills.”

Recommended Reading: “Creating Mindful Leaders”

Respect and Compassion

Among the most important aspects of mindful leadership is simply treating people with respect and dignity. Even if you have to give people bad news or make difficult choices, strive to do so in a way that is kind and empathetic. “The reality of business is the reality of business,” says Ms. Marturano. “But you can make people feel respected and treat people with compassion.”

At some companies, mindful leadership may involve actually promoting mindfulness and meditation offerings at work. More and more workplaces — from schools to hospitals to banks — are offering such programs on the job.

Not Being a Jerk

With time and practice, mindfulness becomes self-reinforcing. “One of the beautiful things about the practice is that you see that treating people poorly doesn’t feel good,” says Mr. Harris. “And the converse does feel good. It creates this set of incentives that leads to better behavior.”

But even without a formal mindfulness program in the office, anyone can exhibit mindful leadership by bringing self-awareness, emotional regulation and empathy to their interactions with colleagues. “It’s about not being a jerk,” says Mr. Harris. “At some basic level, it comes back to that.”

About Stanley Siegel

Stanley Siegel, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, author, lecturer, and former Director of Education and Senior Faculty member of New York's Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. After creating and writing the "Families" column for Newsday he went on to co-author two popular books: The Patient Who Cured His Therapist and Other Unconventional Stories Of Therapy(Penguin/Dutton 1992; Penguin/Plume, 1993; Marlowe and company, 1999) and Uncharted Lives: Understanding The Life Passages Of Gay Men (Penguin/Dutton, 1994; Penguin/Plume 1995) which have been translated into 5 languages. With nearly 45 years of experience in the field of psychology, Siegel has developed an unconventional and tradition-challenging approach to psychotherapy[4][5][6] that has led to his book Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life[7] which was released in October 2011. He was a sex columnist for Psychology Today and the author of How Sex Heals and The Secret Wisdom of Ancient Parables. Siegel founded Psychology Tomorrow Magazine and Wellness Providers Network. Siegel has taught at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, Adelphi University, and the University of California, Berkeley; was the founding Director of the Family Studies Center in Huntington, New York, and has served as a consultant to hospitals and mental health centers throughout the country. Regularly quoted in the media, he has appeared on ABC's Good Morning America several times,[8] as well as many other television and radio programs, and has acted as a consultant for film and television. Siegel was invited on The Oprah Winfrey Show to discuss "How Healers Heal Themselves." He served as the Dance Editor of Show Business magazine, writing weekly dance reviews and reporting on the contemporary dance scene. His daughter, Alyssa Siegel, LPC lives in Portland, Oregon and is a contributor to Your Brain on Sex. After a lifetime in NYC, he moved to Los Angeles in 2016