Kink positive therapists, generally sex therapists or psychotherapists, are knowledgeable about and sensitive to diverse expressions of sexuality. Kink positive therapists feel that too often clients hear that it’s their sexuality that’s the problem. They believe that’s rarely the case. Instead, the usual issues facing these clients aren’t related to their sexual interests at all, but the sex-negative bias of some psychotherapists gets in the way of effective therapy.
What to Expect
Kink positive therapists turn their attention away from pathologizing and towards and appreciation nontraditional sexual practices and communities. Nonjudgmental, collaborative and active kink positive therapists work with clients to create positive changes and to move away from despair, depression and anxiety toward a life of authenticity and joy.
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